Life isn’t fair, get over it (part 1)

When it rains during your BBQ party or a falling tree branch hits and damages your car you might feel inclined to ask the following; why does this always happen to me? However, it’s not happening ‘to you’ in the sense that someone or something is doing it on purpose just to punish or plainly annoy you. The universe doesn’t revolve around your existence; it’s not here for your sake. It’s not out to get you or help you. It’s just there doing its thing. It’s neither fair nor unfair.

The idea that life should be fair stems from wishful thinking. No two persons are the same. The conditions in which people are brought up, as well as the challenges people face, differ dramatically.  Yes, it might be easier for someone else to achieve a certain goal than it is for you. But so what? What are you going to do about it? Should you just sulk and be mad about the fact that the rich kid at the end of the street had no trouble getting the money to set up his business while you had to call a 100 people before finding an interested investor? Should you just give up and think that you weren’t meant for that kind of stuff anyway? Of course not.

It doesn’t matter in what kind of position you are in right now, all that matters is where you want to be and figuring out what steps you should take to get there. There is no reason to be jealous of other people. It doesn’t help, it’s not productive. Life isn’t fair, get over it.

Negative thinking gets you nowhere. It takes energy, makes you feel bad and prevents you from succeeding. You might as well stop it and use the time and energy to actually take steps to getting closer to your goals.

It’s your life; it’s up to you to decide what to do with it. So what will you choose to do with it? Be mad at the world all the time for not being fair or making the most of what you have and work to achieve your goals?



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